Best 60 Minutes – Seize the Day

Life will be easier when…

Turn and talk to someone next to you about when life might be easier…….

Don’t get me wrong there are times when we all spend some time wishing that life was easier. In fact there might be times when we feel like giving up completely.

Firstly, let me make it clear there are no easy answers to the traumas of family life, whether that is at home or within a community like this one at the Bridge.

Secondly , for most of us the number one need is for us not have ‘answers’, but to know that we are not alone.  What can often keep us going in the tough time is hope: the belief that because others have come through experiences like ours – we can too.

A psychologist once said that:

 “Most people believe that a future event will make them happy. They say, ‘when I get married I’ll be happy’ or ‘When I get a new job ….’ Or maybe even something like ‘When the weekend comes I will be happy’.  The psychologist went to on to say ‘really happy people don’t think about their lives that way – even though life maybe far from perfect, they learn to appreciate the good bits.  They grasp happiness – however small – NOW’.

But you, Timothy, man of God: Run for your life from all this. Pursue a righteous life—a life of wonder, faith, love, steadiness, courtesy. Run hard and fast in the faith.  Seize  the eternal life, the life you were called to, the life you so fervently embraced in the presence of so many witnesses
1 Timothy 6:11-12 (The Message)

Anyone any idea of the importance of these two numbers?
6 570, 2 964 turn and see if they ring any bells with you

A man in his late mid life did a little math’s one day.  He knew that the average age to which he might live was 75 years. He then multiplied that by 52 to give him a figure of 2 964 – the number of Saturday his life would hold.  He was already 55 and so he had just 1040 Saturdays left. He went out and toured the toy shops in his town ‘til he managed to buy a 1040 marbles. When he got home he put them all in a large jar – each representing one of the Saturdays he had left in his life.  As time passed every Saturday he took a marble out every week.  One day he was chatting with a younger man who was struggling to make ends meet when it came to time. There just did not seem to be enough and his family was loosing out.  He told the younger man that it helped him to focus on the important things in his life.  He went to fetch the jar and the young man saw that is was empty.  The older man said , “Today I am 75 any Saturday from now on is a bonus” 
(Taken from The Sixty Minutes Family by Rob Parsons)

There are no easy answers
You are not alone
Seize the moment, now.  Talk to someone, buy some marbles, count the days, find happiness now.

Jesus said to another, “Follow me.”
He said, “Certainly, but first excuse me for a couple of days, please. I have to make arrangements for my father’s funeral.” Jesus refused.
“First things first, your business is life, not death. And life is urgent: Announce God’s kingdom!” Then another said, “I’m ready to follow you, Master, but first excuse me while I get things straightened out at home.”
Jesus said, “No procrastination. No backward looks. You can’t put God’s kingdom off till tomorrow. Seize the day.”
Luke 9: 59-62 (The Message)



The Best 60 Minutes – (5) Learning to Let Go

I reckon letting go is a part of life.

 

When a baby is born it is totally dependent upon it’s parents – Life then seems to be about becoming independent of parents from that from very first total dependency.

 Coming off milk and learning to feed yourself  - is a form of letting go.

Learning to walk – without the aid of a walker involves letting go.

I remember my parents letting me go.  I went off to University and learned to stand on my own 2 feet. I had to do my own washing cooking, money management, the lot. It was hard.  I remember that you never booked the washing machines after the rugby team otherwise your clothes came out dirtier than when they first went in.  I often give thanks that my Mum and Dad let me go.  It was one of the most important gifts they gave me.  It was hard for them, it involved a lot of letters and phone calls during that first year at college. But they knew, they knew as parents that they had to let me go,..

Marriage is all about letting go. It says in Genesis that a mother will leave her family and the husband and wife will become one.  Both parties are involved in letting go.

 

Sometimes letting go is about losing control, losing control over a possession as you lend it to a brother, system or neighbour; letting go of a child as they grow up and want to learn more independence, letting go of a habit which damages you,    

 

The flip side of the coin is about trust.  Sometimes we will not let go because we do not trust, we worry about what will happen if we do let go…

 

Have a look at this…Video:  Mr. Worry

 

 

What do people leave behind?

 

They spent some time in Jericho. As Jesus was leaving town, trailed by his disciples and a parade of people, a blind beggar by the name of Bartimaeus, son of Timaeus, was sitting alongside the road. When he heard that Jesus the Nazarene was passing by, he began to cry out, “Son of David, Jesus! Mercy, have mercy on me!” Many tried to hush him up, but he yelled all the louder, “Son of David! Mercy, have mercy on me!”

Jesus stopped in his tracks. “Call him over.”

They called him. “It’s your lucky day! Get up! He’s calling you to come!” Throwing off his coat, he was on his feet at once and came to Jesus. Jesus said, “What can I do for you?”

The blind man said, “Rabbi, I want to see.”

 “On your way,” said Jesus. “Your faith has saved and healed you.”

In that very instant he recovered his sight and followed Jesus down the road.

Mark 10: 46-52 (The Message)

 

The woman took the hint and left. In her confusion she left her water pot. Back in the village she told the people, “Come see a man who knew all about the things I did, who knows me inside and out. Do you think this could be the Messiah?” And they went out to see for themselves.

John 4: 28-29 (The Message)

 

Matthew 9:20 – 21 (The Message)

 

Jesus was at Bethany, a guest of Simon the Leper. While he was eating dinner, a woman came up carrying a bottle of very expensive perfume. Opening the bottle, she poured it on his head. Some of the guests became furious among themselves. “That’s criminal! A sheer waste! This perfume could have been sold for well over a year’s wages and handed out to the poor.” They swelled up in anger, nearly bursting with indignation over her.

Mark 14: 3-5 (The Message)

 

Not long after that, Jesus went to the village Nain. His disciples were with him, along with quite a large crowd. As they approached the village gate, they met a funeral procession—a woman’s only son was being carried out for burial. And the mother was a widow. When Jesus saw her, his heart broke. He said to her, “Don’t cry.” Then he went over and touched the coffin. The pallbearers stopped. He said, “Young man, I tell you: Get up.” The dead son sat up and began talking. Jesus presented him to his mother.

Luke 7:11-15 (The Message)

 

Peter tried to regain some initiative: “We left everything we owned and followed you, didn’t we?” “Yes,” said Jesus, “and you won’t regret it. No one who has sacrificed home, spouse, brothers and sisters, parents, children—whatever— will lose out. It will all come back multiplied many times over in your lifetime. And then the bonus of eternal life!”

Luke 18:28-30 (The Message)

 

 

THE THINGS WE LEAVE BEHIND

 

There sits Simon, foolish and wise.

Proudly he’s tending his nets.

Jesus calls and the boats drift away.

And all that he owns he forgets.

But more than the nets he abandoned that day,

 He found that his pride was soon fading away.

It’d hard to imagine the freedom we find.

From the things we leave behind.

 

The sightless beggar, pleading each day,

Catching the coins in his robe.

At finding Jesus he threw it away

And joyfully followed his Lord.

But more than the robe that he left by the way,

The darkness that dwelt in hid heart went away.

It’d hard to imagine the freedom we find

From the thing we leave behind.

 

Matthew was mindful of taking the tax

And pressing the people to pay.

At hearing the call he responded in failh

And followed the Light and the Way.

And leaving the people so puzzled he found

That the greed in hid heart was no lonqer around

It’s hard to imagine the freedom we find

From the things we leave behind.

 

Taken from Reflections on the life of Christ by Michael Card

 

I sometimes have a picture in my head, it is almost a vision that reoccurs: I see a path disappearing in the distance. Either side is strewn with various objects: a cloak…a cane…an expensive car, the door left open, the keys still in the ignition. The list is endless. The objects represent things people have left behind to follow Jesus. In the vision I keep looking for things I have left behind for His sake.

 

Almost everyone who follows Jesus in the New Testament leaves something behind for His sake. Simon and the other disciples who were fishermen left their nets and boats. James and John, the sons of Zebedee, left their father In the process as well as a prosperous family business. Archaeologists tell us they have uncovered a fish market, a “branch office” in Jerusalem that belonged to Zebedee (perhaps the first store in a chain called, “Captain Zee’s?”).

Matthew left behind an even more lucrative business, tax gathering. Not only do I see his tax booth abandoned alongside my visionary path, I see a pile of money on it. Once Matthew left his wealth to follow Jesus we never hear him mention money or power again!

Others left things behind after they encountered Jesus:-

·         The blind beggar, who used his cloak to gather the coins he begged, jumped up and left the cloak lying there after Jesus gave him his sight.

·         The woman at the well ran off and forgot her water jar once she was confronted by this man who told her “everything she had ever done:’

·         The woman who suffered from continual bleeding left a long line of doctors behind.  The son of the widow of Nain left an empty coffin lying there by the city gate. 

·         The sinful woman left behind an empty alabaster perfume jar.  

·         Lazarus, perhaps most miraculous of all, left behind a pile of grave clothes and an empty tomb.

 

You can go on and on. The farther down the path you get, the higher the possessions piled on either side. With each object the travelers left behind, and leave behind, a small piece of themselves, because a possession isn’t a little something you own, as much as something that owns a little bit of you. We leave behind a part of our old self.  In return for whatever small thing we discard Jesus gives us a part of Himself in exchange. With Him is great freedom from those things we leave behind, freedom from that greatest self-possessing possession, our “self.”

 

Let go…

 

The Best 60 minutes – (4) The Magic of Traditions

 

Bible Reading – Luke 22: 14-23 (The Message)

 

When it was time, (Jesus) sat down, all the apostles with him, and said, “You’ve no idea how much I have looked forward to eating this Passover meal with you before I enter my time of suffering. It’s the last one I’ll eat until we all eat it together in the kingdom of God. Taking the cup, he blessed it, then said, “Take this and pass it among you. As for me, I’ll not drink wine again until the kingdom of God arrives.”

Taking bread, he blessed it, broke it, and gave it to them, saying, “This is my body, given for you. Eat it in my memory.” He did the same with the cup after supper, saying, “This cup is the new covenant written in my blood, blood poured out for you. “Do you realize that the hand of the one who is betraying me is at this moment on this table? It’s true that the Son of Man is going down a path already marked out—no surprises there. But for the one who turns him in, turns traitor to the Son of Man, this is doomsday.” They immediately became suspicious of each other and began quizzing one another, wondering who might be about to do this.

 

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Video: Peter Kay Live – the family wedding

 

 

 

 

This week we’re looking at the magic of traditions.  Our opening clip probably brings many memories of family events or parties that you have been too.  We get away with things in our families that we might not elsewhere.  We can act the fool, be the comedian, there might be a slight feeling of embarrassment as we tell someone else about it.  There’s silliness and hassle, and sometimes they don’t make sense.  But they connect us to each other. They help us to belong. This evening we are going to explore what traditions are helpful for us as the family of the Bridge.

 

All age Match the traditions to the Bridge family game

 

§  “When I was younger every year on Christmas morning my mum and dad always made us have breakfast before we open our present and every year they would lock the living room door and hide the key so after breakfast we then had to go looking for the key before we could open the present this happen for many years”. 

§  “We always have a cooked breakfast Christmas morning but we open our presents first.”

§  “We have a particular meal and champagne every Christmas eve every year that we don’t have any other time of year. We also open some presents on Christmas eve.”

§  “We get to choose what takeaway we have on our birthdays.”

§  “We have a cooked breakfast every Saturday morning.”

§  “When we go to Wales on holiday we have particular walks that we do, and try and go down to the local beach the first night we arrive altogether.”

§  “On family movie nights we have duvets on the sofa, projector screen on, and snacks

§  “My wife and I have 2 children, have been married for a long time and we still have a date night every week.”

§  “At one time we always kept our best clothes for Sundays and I still tend to keep my newest clothes to wear to church”.

 

Video 2 – Over the Hedge – Hero realises he does want to belong to a family of woodland creatures

Activity time the glue that connects us together – Creating a Bridge family shield.

Draw a picture of a special time for the Bridge family.

  • What things do we do well together?
  • What would you like to change about this family?
  • What are the good things about belonging to this family?
  • Choose words to describe the bridge family?