Bible reading: Acts 6:1-7 (The Message)
During this time, as the disciples were increasing in numbers by leaps and bounds, hard feelings developed among the Greek-speaking believers—”Hellenists”—toward the Hebrew-speaking believers because their widows were being discriminated against in the daily food lines. So the Twelve called a meeting of the disciples. They said, “It wouldn’t be right for us to abandon our responsibilities for preaching and teaching the Word of God to help with the care of the poor. So, friends, choose seven men from among you whom everyone trusts, men full of the Holy Spirit and good sense, and we’ll assign them this task. Meanwhile, we’ll stick to our assigned tasks of prayer and speaking God’s Word.” The congregation thought this was a great idea. They went ahead and chose—
Stephen, a man full of faith and the Holy Spirit,
Nicolas, a convert from Antioch.
Then they presented them to the apostles. Praying, the apostles laid on hands and commissioned them for their task. The Word of God prospered. The number of disciples in Jerusalem increased dramatically. Not least, a great many priests submitted themselves to the faith.
Video – From the film The Water boy (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ZpDnXYIFjo)
Conflict will happen. There is no way we can avoid it.
It can be at home, in the workplace, here at the Bridge. What matters is how we might go about resolving the conflict? Here are some dos and don’ts.
1. Don’t attack the person. If you say to a child “Pull your socks up you are going to be a loser for the rest of your life.” it will scar them for life.
2. Don’t make comparisons between people. “I wish you were more like Carol’s husband” You brother always does it so much better than you”, will not help.
3. Don’t exaggerate.
4. Don’t trivialize. Make sure the other person knows you are trying to understand. You will need to balance this with putting things into perspective.
5. Don’t avoid discussion. Give the other person chance to speak without interrupting – and listen to them. Let people know how their behaviour has made you feel.
6. Do stick to the issue. Don’t be an elephant or archaeologist – always trying to dig up the past.
7. Do try to find creative solutions. A win-win situation is ideal
8. Do try to cut each other some slack at times of stress, e.g. exams, illness, loss of a job, broken friendships etc.
9. Do remember loves means always having to say sorry.
10. Do focus on developing trust. Go for honesty and be prepared to forgive.
YouTube clip – Something Beautiful by the News Boys (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MkdMOauMAys)